Was supposed to go out for a project meeting today but ended up not going, no thanks to my deteriorating health >:( But thank God it's all okay now ^^
Today's just a day of resting at home and pondering over life and thinking through everything that has happened to me, especially through Secondary School life, where I learnt about many things the hard way. Hahaha. I guess in life shit happens and there's really little (or nothing) we can do to stop shits from happening. Like..
1. NO ONE WILL KNOW WHAT THE HELL YOU'RE THINKING IF YOU DON'T VOICE IT OUT.
I think that's pretty self-explanatory. We all watch dramas and read books and get a little too connected with them and we think that our real-life friends or romantic partners are going to magically figure out what is going on in our tiny heads when we don't say anything. BUT FACE IT, IT DOESN'T HAPPEN ALL THE TIME. Note, not all the time, because there are still some people who are like the worms in your stomach, and they are able to know what you are thinking without even uttering a single word. But not everyone is like that. Even when you go to the clinic you'll have to tell the doctor where you're hurting before he can help you. So point to note, if you don't want to take the initiative to tell people what you are thinking, then don't blame them for not being able to sense your problems. And the same thing applies, if you are dying to know something, ASK FOR IT. Your answers won't just appear in your dreams if you don't ask.
SO? SPEAK UP. IF YOU FEEL PAIN, IF YOU FEEL UNCOMFORTABLE, IF YOU WANT SOMEONE TO KNOW SOMETHING, FREAKING SAY IT.
2. NO ONE'S A SAINT, EVERYONE MAKES MISTAKES. ACCEPT IT.
Admit it, whether you're that top student in class, whether you're the pop kid that everyone idolizes and tries to make friends with, whether you're the most good-looking person in school, YOU MAKE MISTAKES. But something to comfort you a little is that, EVERYONE ELSE DOES TOO. It's perfectly alright to make mistakes, and you don't have to beat yourself up for it. Even the seemingly perfect and successful Mark Zuckerberg was a school dropout. He didn't have it easy from the start. No one did. We all fall at times, we all fail at something, we all cry when things get too tiring and tough, we all feel left out sometimes, and WE ALL MAKE MISTAKES. But as scary as it seems, mistakes aren't really ugly. They are the fundamentals for learning. If you don't make mistakes, you won't learn to apologise, you won't learn to avoid making the same silly mistake. Mistakes = learning. ^^
DON'T BE AFRAID TO MAKE MISTAKES. THEY MOULD YOUR LEARNING.
3. SOMETIMES YOU DON'T REALISE THE POWER OF YOUR WORDS UNTIL IT'S TOO LATE.
Many a time, people tend to be straightforward, and say things that are crucially hurting, but without any realization of it. They just keep spilling ugly things to people, and only realise what it really meant for the receiving party when they get the effect of the words they are being hurled at. And then they regret. They regret when it's too late. When you have the chance to be able to talk to someone, think about it, would it hurt to say something nice instead of something negative to the person? Say YOU'RE PRETTY instead of YOU LOOK UGLY. Say YOU'RE GORGEOUS instead of YOU'RE FAT. Say THE RIGHT ONE WILL COME instead of NO ONE WANTS YOU. Say WORK HARDER instead of YOU'RE DOOMED FOR FAILURE. Is it really that hard? Would you lose a piece of your skin if you say that? Would you die if you say that? Would anything bad happen to you if you were to be nice to someone? HELL NO. So the next time you see someone you always bully, try to say something nice to them, and you'll realise that you actually feel better that way, than saying all the ugly things you've been saying to them all these while. I remember watching an inspirational video months ago, and the main guy in that video said that a male student had been bullied in his school for months, and he was just on his way to suicide when the main guy gave him a big hug and said YOU'RE BEAUTIFUL. Just that 2 simple words, and that stopped the guy from committing suicide. Do you realize how powerful words can be? They can either save a life, or take it away.
IF YOU HAVE NOTHING NICE TO SAY, THEN SAY NOTHING AT ALL.
4. EVERYONE FEELS INSIGNIFICANT ONE DAY OR ANOTHER.
Everyone has those days where they feel like their coffee is more bitter, their hair just curls up the opposite of the way they want, their shirt just looks more crumpled, people are giving them more stares and THE WHOLE WORLD JUST SEEMS LIKE IT'S AGAINST YOU AND YOU'RE BETTER OFF DEAD. But, all you have to know it that it's just a bad day, and a bad day doesn't really last for more than 24 hours. Face up to it, IF YOU DIE, THE EARTH WOULD STILL BE REVOLVING AROUND THE SUN, THAT AUNTIE AT THE HAWKER STALL WOULD STILL BE SELLING HER CHICKEN RICE AND THAT TINY ANT CRAWLING AROUND YOUR HOUSE FLOOR WOULD STILL BE DOING SO. Nothing much would change, just that your friends would probably blame themselves for not being able to stop you, your family members would probably cry their eyes out, and their lives would probably change forever. NO ONE IS INSIGNIFICANT TO EVERYONE. We're all special beings to someone out there and there's someone important to us. So don't treat your life lightly. Your life may be yours, but the aftereffects of your death isn't just your corpse, it comes with the hurt of many other people out there.
LIFE IS PRECIOUS.
5. FORGIVE BUT NEVER FORGET.
When someone hurts you: CRY > GET OVER IT > LEARN > STOP CRYING > REMEMBER.
People may hurl all the nasty things to you when they are mad, and you can forgive them for that, but what an angry man says is always his true inner thoughts.
BECAUSE FORGETTING THEIR UNKIND ACTS GIVES THEM ANOTHER CHANCE TO HURT YOU.
♥♥♥
Hahaha was just reading through Tumblr and suddenly felt like doing up a short post on what I felt was pretty relatable. And before I end off, one final point:
6. WHEN YOU CARE ABOUT PEOPLE, HURT IS KINDA PART OF THE PACKAGE.
Yes I know I'm just basically typing out the text in the picture but just trying to emphasize the point. When you let someone into your life, and decide to make them important, you are giving them the authority to hurt you and cause you pain. You will smile when you see this person being happy. You will feel sad when you see this person cry. And when this person decide to betray and hurt you, YOU WILL FEEL PAIN IN YOUR HEART. Okay not literally but maybe metaphorically. It sucks to have someone important in your life to hurt you. But...
SINCE YOU WON'T KNOW WHEN THAT SOMEONE WILL HURT YOU, CHOOSE WISELY WHO YOU LET INTO YOUR WORLD AND HEART ♥
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